Hello warrior family,
Today we will talk about grief, the stages of healing and how to show up for someone who's grieving.
The Stages of Grief
Grief is often described as a multi-stage process. While everyone experiences it in their own way, many people go through some variation of the stages outlined below. It’s important to remember that grief isn’t linear, and not everyone will go through all of these stages or experience them in a specific order.
1. Denial
• What it looks like: Initially, the reality of the loss can feel overwhelming. People in this stage may feel numb, shocked, or have difficulty accepting the situation. Denial serves as a temporary shield, allowing the person time to come to terms with the loss.
• Example: “This can’t be happening. I can’t believe they’re gone.”
2. Anger
• What it looks like: As the initial shock wears off, feelings of frustration, helplessness, and even resentment may arise. People may feel angry at themselves, others, or even at the person who has passed for leaving them behind.
• Example: “Why did this happen to me? It’s not fair.”
3. Bargaining
• What it looks like: In this stage, people may try to make deals or bargains, hoping to reverse or delay the loss. They may have thoughts like, “If only I had done this differently, maybe things would have turned out better.”
• Example: “If only I had said more, done more… maybe they’d still be here.”
4. Depression
• What it looks like: As the reality of the loss sets in, deep sadness, loneliness, and despair can take over. This stage can feel overwhelming, and the person may struggle to find hope or meaning in life.
• Example: “I feel empty inside. What’s the point of anything anymore?”
5. Acceptance
• What it looks like: Acceptance doesn’t mean forgetting or moving on; instead, it’s about coming to terms with the loss and learning how to live with it. It involves finding a way to move forward while carrying the memory of what has been lost.
• Example: “I miss them, but I can move forward with my life. I carry their memory with me.”
How to Heal from Grief
Healing from grief doesn’t mean “getting over it” or erasing the pain. It means learning to live with the loss and gradually finding a new way to engage with life. Here are practical steps to help you or someone you love heal:
1. Allow Yourself to Grieve
• Grief is an intense emotional process, and the first step is allowing yourself (or your loved one) to feel all the emotions that arise. There’s no “right” way to grieve, and it’s important to honor each feeling that comes up, whether it’s sadness, anger, guilt, or even relief.
2. Seek Support
• Grief can feel isolating, but reaching out for support is vital. Talk to family and friends, consider joining a support group, or seek professional help from a therapist. Sharing your pain with others reminds you that you’re not alone, and it can help you feel understood and validated.
3. Express Your Emotions
• Expressing your feelings can be cathartic. Whether through crying, journaling, creating art, or music, giving voice to your emotions helps to process and release them. Writing about the person or experience you’ve lost can bring clarity and comfort.
4. Take Care of Your Physical Health
• Grief often takes a physical toll, leading to exhaustion, sleep problems, and changes in appetite. It’s important to prioritize self-care: try to eat nourishing foods, get enough sleep, and engage in physical activity. Exercise can help release built-up emotions and improve mood.
5. Create Rituals or Memorials
• Rituals provide a way to honor the memory of what’s been lost. These can be formal, such as a memorial service, or personal acts like lighting a candle on significant dates, visiting a favorite place, or planting a tree. These acts can offer comfort and help maintain a connection to the loss.
6. Find Meaning
• Finding meaning in your grief can help you move forward. Reflect on how the relationship or experience shaped your life and what lessons you’ve learned. For some, this process may be spiritual, while for others it may be about understanding how the loss has affected personal growth.
7. Be Patient
• Grief doesn’t have a set timeline, and healing doesn’t happen overnight. It’s important to be patient with yourself or others, allowing the grief to unfold naturally. Some days will feel easier than others, and that’s okay. Trust that healing takes time.
8. Consider Professional Help
• If grief becomes overwhelming or if it starts to interfere with daily life, consider seeking help from a professional, such as a therapist or grief counselor. They can help you process your emotions, develop coping strategies, and work through complicated grief.
9. Engage in Meaningful Activities
• Grief can make life feel dull and purposeless, but re-engaging with activities that bring joy or fulfillment can help restore balance. This could involve rediscovering hobbies, pursuing new interests, or simply spending time in nature. These activities can provide a sense of hope and help shift your focus, even temporarily.
10. Practice Self-Compassion
• Grief can bring up feelings of guilt, self-blame, or shame. Be gentle with yourself. Recognize that healing is a process, and it’s okay to have setbacks. Treat yourself with kindness and patience, understanding that you’re doing the best you can.
How to Support Someone Who’s Grieving
If someone you care about is grieving, it can be challenging to know how to support them. While you can’t take their pain away, your presence and compassion can be a source of comfort. Here are some practical ways to show up for someone in mourning:
1. Be Present
• Sometimes, the best thing you can do is simply be there. Offering a quiet presence or just sitting with them can be incredibly comforting, especially when words seem inadequate.
2. Listen Without Judgment
• Let the grieving person express their feelings in their own time and in their own way. Listen without trying to fix or offer advice. Simply being heard can help them feel understood and supported.
3. Acknowledge the Loss
• Don’t avoid mentioning the person or thing they’ve lost. Acknowledge the grief openly, and let them know you’re there for them. Simple phrases like, “I’m so sorry for your loss” can provide reassurance.
4. Offer Practical Help
• Grieving individuals may feel overwhelmed by daily tasks. Offering specific help, such as cooking a meal, running errands, or helping with household chores, can provide much-needed relief.
5. Respect Their Grieving Process
• Grief is a personal journey, and everyone experiences it differently. Be patient and don’t rush the person through their emotions. Allow them to grieve in their own time and in their own way.
6. Check In Regularly
• Grief doesn’t end after the funeral or memorial service. Keep checking in with the grieving person in the weeks and months that follow. Many people feel forgotten once others have moved on, so ongoing support can make a big difference.
Grief is a universal human experience, but the way we navigate it is deeply personal. While the pain of loss may never fully disappear, over time, with support and self-compassion, many people find ways to heal and embrace life again. Healing from grief doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding a way to move forward while carrying the memory of what was lost.
Remember, grief is not something to “get over” but something to integrate into your life. With time, patience, and support, healing becomes possible, and a renewed sense of hope can emerge from the pain of loss.
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Andriana is the founder of Conscious Alignment & Co-Creator at Team Light Cyprus.
Her purpose and passion is giving people the tools, guidance & inspiration for creating an empowered version of self in all aspects of life. She is dedicated into assisting, healing & activating people by sharing her gifts through authenticity, simplicity & spiritual mastery Find out more at www.consciousalignment.co.uk
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